It did happen three days ago.
That is the entirety of his response.
IMO he was baited and provoked, during a painful and stressful period of his life. Yes, it was wrong, but when one considers the entirety of all things that were said, he was being hit hard with a very low blow. He lashed out, it was wrong, but he had his reasons. Without Nylar’s provocation that would never have been uttered.