I hate my christian mom

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Ever since I came out to my mom as trans, she called me everything you can imagine. She said that I’m possessed, that Satan is inside me, that I’m a demon and an abomination. She made me go for confession 2 times, wished horrible things on me and then pretends that she loves me every Sunday.

She puts God above everyone else, including her own family. I’ll be moving out soon and I’m thinking to completely cut ties with her and block her number. Some consider this mean and awful but it’s a completely justified action in my eyes.

I think most christians always try to make excuses for their mental and/or physical abuse and then blame the victims but I won’t stand up for it anymore. She’ll be gone forever from my life. Because I hate her for what she’s done to me and my sister.

Is my hate for her too much because she is my “mom”?

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Hi, Skylersh. I think that blood is not thicker than water and family is an attitude.
Many, many decades ago, I divorced my father and two brothers and never looked back. It was the right thing for me. It was easy to do because it was so right.
My advice is for you to do the right thing for you. Each of us has our own set of circumstances, our own feelings, our own way forward. None of us can say what is right for you. That’s yours to determine. Trust yourself, do what you consider best, and go live your life. :grin:

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It’s all too common for religious parents to lash out on their children for being outliers. Your hate is justifiable due to her mentally and PHYSICALLY abusing you. Disclosing connections is necessary i’ll say. Adult believers rarely change.

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Welcome, @skylersh .

The hate you feel for your mother is about manipulation - your attempt at controlling what she does or does not say to you. You’ll never be able to control other people but you do control your reactions. The world around you does what it does and you reserve the right to determine your response.

When she starts with the “abomination and Satan” stuff, what’s wrong with simply saying, “Thanks for sharing that” and then letting her wallow in her delusions?

It isn’t written anywhere that you have be around any particular person if they aren’t going to treat you in a way that’s acceptable. How are you going to decide to react in this situation?

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I’m really, really sorry you are going through this.

FYI you sound young, so keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with being trans, and don’t let people tell you that you’re sick, evil, a child molestor, a groomer, etc…

The Bible-thumpers say that you’re either male or female . . . yet this isn’t true.

Consider the fact that women have an XX chromosome arrangement, and men have an XY arrangement, and that this is just as relevant to gender as a penis or a vagina.

Well . . . Kleinfelter Syndrome happens when a “boy” has an XXY chromosome arrangement, which causes many feminine traits. Some people even have an XXXY arrangement, which causes even more feminine traits. The 80s era European supermodel Tula has an XXXY arrangement. Please see below:

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The reason why I bring up Tula is because if we allow that there is at least one situation where gender is a grey area, then there must be others.

Also, I’ve always wondered why people like Tula are described as men with female traits rather than as females with a few masculine traits.

If a girl was born with a penis growing out of her shoulder (and things like this can happen if a pregnant woman takes a drug called thalidomide), then no one would bat an eyelash if she had it removed as soon as possible.

So . . . what’s the difference if someone like Tula has surgery and hormones to become more physically female?

And if you are a woman “trapped” in a man’s body, then medical science should do anything it can to help you . . . and your care should be between you and your doctors, not politicians and not religious leaders.

I do advise you to avoid living in Texas, Florida, Alabama, Louisiana, Oklahoma, and Mississippi, as these places are not trans friendly.

Again, I’m sorry about the situation between you and your mother.

Please keep us posted on how everything works out with you.

Mazel tov!!!

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This is everything I needed to hear honestly cause lately I’ve been feeling like giving up. Thank you so much!!!

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I’ll keep on following my dreams no matter what she says or does. I’m not gonna let her ruin me

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I heard “Godless Granny” (on youtube) make an excellent point that doesn’t seem to have occurred to your mother: If we accept the point that XX and XY chromosomes determine gender, then God has done gender transition surgery. Eve came from Adam’s rib, which means that God started off with male material that He changed into a female by reorganizing the chromosomes in Adam’s rib.

This means that gender transition has a Biblical precedent.

:rofl:

Maybe you can rub your mother’s nose in this?

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I never thought of it that way, that’s a good point :rofl:
The only think I’m rubbing on my mom’s nose tho for now is my college degree. And she couldn’t believe it xD

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Yes and no. I mean yes, hate what she is saying but bear in mind she’s also a victim, she’s been brainwashed by people on the religious right.

James O’Brien (a UK radio show host) calls it “compassion for the conned, contempt for the conman” but yeah, get out and block her number. I would leave some kind of route back for her; unlikely as it might seem to you now, she might have a revelation and realise that you are what you are and that love/respect is the way forward.

UK Atheist

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That’s a valid viewpoint, however, she’s an adult with a brain. So I cannot justify it. I’m sorry

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