I discovered this YouTube channel recently, it’s been putting aspects of my life into a perspective I hadn’t considered before.
Take from it what you will! 
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Wow… What a waste of a video. Completely useless from the very beginning to the very end.
Comfort:
- Relaxation
- A state of ease.
- Peace of mind.
Pay attention now… “one need look no further.” This whole “deeper crap” is complete bullshit. More potent senses of the word? You gotta be shitting me –
“Freedom from pain?” What kind of an idiot thinks they are going to go through life without pain? Now here is a recipe for pathology. If you are holding on to any kind of a delusion at all, that you should be exempt from pain or suffering in some way, you are a fucking idiot and your “comfort” merely lies in the fact that you are oblivious to the world around you.
“The easing or alleviation of grief or stress:” Are you really dumb enough to believe this is comfort? This is numbness, not comfort. Stress and grief are essential human emotions that lead us to engage in actions that often lead to betterment of the self when dealt with effectively. “Dealt with effectively” Trust in the self to deal with life effectively, stress, grief, discomfort, pain, whatever… “Comfort” is knowing that you are going to be okay. “Comfort” is understanding the ups and downs of existence. “Comfort” is accepting things as they are and knowing you can move forward. “Comfort” is knowing that you are not the first and will not be the last.
(I’ll tell you a story after the video.) All I can say at this point is that this idiot has no idea what he is talking about. It is not in “these definitions” the real value of comfort emerges. This is utterly and completely RETARDED!
Now he goes on… “Empathy dissolves hostility.” Okay… and empathy is a way to “comfort” another. There is a trap here. Is the other an emotional bandit? Do they play the victim to find a rescuer? Is this the beginning of a pathological relationship where one person is the eternal victim and the other the rescuer? Compassion is not comfort and the comfort you get from another is not comfort that comes from your own psychological state of well being. It is a Band-Aid at best and does not address the problem of attaining a sense of self comfort within the victim.
OH FUCK _ “Sadly many individuals submit to these appeals.” I WANT TO FUCKING SCREAM AT THE DAMN COMPUTER SCREEN. ‘OF COURSE PEOPLE SUBMIT TO THESE FUCKING APPEALS! THAT IS OFTEN THE SMARTEST THINGH TO DO!!! YOU FUCKING IDIOT!!’
Keeping mom happy could be the difference between a student living in a home environment that is complete hell for the final few years of his high school life, being tossed out of the home, or eventually being forced to drop out of school. “Comfort may very well mean getting along instead of winning the battle.” An intelligent decision is one that causes the “LEAST” amount of stress and discomfort, 'NOT ONE THAT CAUSES MORE BY TRYING TO ELIMINATE IT ALL." Going head to head with mom, may not be the best strategy. FUCK THIS IDIOT!
I’m just going to say that the same thing can be said about "Same sex attraction or even going no contact with an abuser. " There are times, ways, and places to challenge any injustice. You do not have to fight back with an abuser to get a recording on a cell phone and file a police report. There are many cases in which your father who is dying of cancer and has been given a year to live does not have to know you are gay. “Comfort” lies in seeing a situation clearly and responding as appropriately and intelligently as possible. THIS VIDEO IS FUCKING STUPID!!!
Now he is on to this "emotional blackmail* Frankly he is sounding a bit more sane. Religious people do try to make us feel guilty. Are you comfortable with yourself, your ideas, your atheism? If so, you will not fall for the guilt trip. This is one of the reasons you hear atheists say things like “Knowledge is power.” or “It was reading the Bible that made me an atheists.” Understanding the guilt trip builds immunity to its manipulative power.
Emotional Judgments: Some good stuff here. Why do you think they play music in Church? Why does the preacher tell a woeful tale of someone down trodden who finds Jesus and is happy ever after? Why do they allow witnessing? And why is it all done, before passing the collection plate? Study after study shows us that when people are influenced by emotion, they make poor decisions. Add companies know this. Churches know this. Now you know it too.
Knowing how emotions influence decision making, you can use this knowledge to help you. How do you feel before a big test? Use your emotional well being to prepare. Feel like you have done all you can do. Feel rested. Feel like you are moving up or engaged in an adventure leading you to a goal. All of these increase comfort and alleviate test anxiety. Nothing is as comforting as being prepared.
This video is getting repetitive and the soft spoken monotone of the narrator is putting me to sleep. I don’t have the patients for his claptrap drivel.
STORY TIME:
You are walking along the sidewalk one day, just admiring the scenery, looking at the blue sky, listening to the birds sing. Suddenly, in front of you, there is a big hole. You step into the hole and fall to the bottom. The hole is deep and dark and you can not see your way to get out of it.
You struggle for hours and hours. You try everything you can think of. You yell at the passers by. Nothing seems to be working but then, you come up with a plan and find your way out of the hole. “Wow, I’m glad that’s over,” you exclaim to yourself.
Another day you are walking down the street, knowing that there are holes to watch out for, but something grabbed your attention and you just were not looking where you were going and WHAM, you fell into the same damn hole.
“Okay” you think to yourself. “I have been here before, What did I do last time?” You try a few things, it’s not easy, but you manage to get yourself out of the hole without freaking out and it only took you half the time. “Whew! Glad that’s over with!” you say to yourself.
Then there you are walking down the street and suddenly, “Woops” you have slipped into the same damn hole. "What the fuck!! " All you can do at this point is laugh at yourself. You knew the damn hole was there and still you went ahead and walked right into it. “Silly guy,” you think. “When are you going to learn?” You pull yourself up out of the hole, quite easily this time, and continue on your way.
Some time later you are walking along and you see that same damn hole. You chuckle to yourself, “Not this time.” and you walk around the hole. As you are patting yourself on the back and telling yourself, “I’m not so stupid as to fall into that hole again.” You fall into a hole. It’s not the same hole but it is deep and dark. You have no fucking idea at all how to get out of it. …
Comfort is simply knowing that there are holes and that you will fall into them. Comfort is knowing when you are in a hole and then respecting yourself enough to know that you will make the best decision possible to work your way out of it. (ONE CAVIOT: Not all holes have a way out. Knowing this is also very important,)
There is a Buddhist story of a monk who stepped too close to the edge of a cliff and ended up slipping over the edge. As he was falling, he reached out and grabbed the branch of a small tree. The tree was ripping slowly from the ground and not strong enough to support all of his weight. His arms were getting tired.
When the monk looked below him, he saw a pride of hungry lions. They were looking up at him and licking their chops in anticipation of his fall.
When he looked up, he saw no way out of the situation. The cliff was a sheer drop and there were no foot holds or hand holds that he might use to pull himself higher.
The small tree he was holding onto ripped from the ground a bit and that caught his attention. He looked at the base of the tree, and there, next to the tree, was a small strawberry plant with the largest most delicious looking strawberry he had ever seen. As he reached for it, the sun shined off its bright juicy red surface. He plucked it from the plant, brought it to his lips and took a bite. It was sweet…
There is a time when we must all accept the inevitable… knowing this, actually knowing it, is also a comfort.
I HATED YOUR VIDEO AND IT IS FULL OF TERRIBLE ADVICE.
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Absolutely!
My parents’ attitude was “our house our rules”. My dad came from a generation/culture where children were considered possessions. Each of we four siblings left home at 18.
Whoa 
NOW I’m going to listen to this video. This is a piece of shit advice.
Narcissistic psychopaths feed and use a person’s empathy against them. For fucks sake - Ted Bundy’s victims couldn’t dissolve his hostility no more than dealing with corporations - which btw, only respond to where YOUR dollars are spent.
Lol!!! Yah - I submitted because I wanted to survive.
Got the fuck out when I was 17. Completely fucked up btw 
Yup 
… plea to emotion (drag out the women and children; OR patriot music; OR scenes meshed of last day scenarios; OR…)
repetition is a tool of “brain washing” same with tone…
This story I am familiar with and completely embraced! Loved it when I first read it - except in the story I read, it was an exotic plant 
fragrant and never before beheld by his eyes…
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Good point… All the empathy in the world is not going to help you if I just fucking hate your ass and want to see you dead! I alter my view on empathy a bit more towards the White. Like everything else, there is a time and place for empathy.
The video is even more shitty than I first assumed.
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Well shit.
The video, was full of bad advice after all, but like the strawberry at the base of the small tree, there are nuggets of truth in it?
Hmm, this is almost like the argument for religion, it’s full of negatives, but there are a few kernels of positivity amongst it.
The problem is, can you find those positives without religion, or in this case the video?
Zen Koan: There is a live goose in a bottle with long narrow neck. Your task is to remove the goose from the bottle without breaking the bottle or harming the goose.
I know an answer. I do not claim to know the answer. I’m not sure there is one.
Yes, there is some science quoted. And then used to make the stupidest fucking assertions on the planet. It’s like calling the bible a history book because some of the ancient cities it mentions actually exist.
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The same way the fucker got in 
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That’s my answer and I’m sticking with it.
Pssssstttt - 
what more do you want???
You made no mention of how big the bottle is, if its large enough to have a goose in it, it might be large enough to walk inside the long ‘relatively’ narrow neck and pick the goose up.
For the sake of the question you need only to assume the bottle is big enough for a live goose and that it can’t get out. Just accept the facts given.
Hint: This a Zen koan, not an exercise in logic. Nor is it a trick question. The answer will either come to you or it will not. There is no time limit. I’ve only ever solved one zen koan. (not this one) Took around ten years before the answer came to me. By that time I had dropped it, and was not thinking of it at the time.
Is it that the long narrow neck refers to the goose’s neck and not the bottle?
But then you said the goose can’t get out, so I don’t see how that would help
The other option being, let the goose die on its own accord, then sprinkle the bones out of the bottle.
I have given you the same information I was given. Either accept it or not and move on.
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I’ll take it my answer wasn’t acceptable, hmm I’ll ponder it on it.
I’m guessing you can’t melt the glass, that would be breaking it 
I was abouts to go to sleep, but this stupid goose is stuck in a bottle and also stuck in my mind
I thought ah well forget it, go to sleep.
Then ping, it occurred to me, “there is no answer”
I’m not supposed to answer, I’m supposed to accept I don’t know?
The questions is top remove the goose from the bottle without hurting the goose or breaking the bottle
Yes, there is, and answer and it’s simple.
Hint ; Zen koans are not exercises in logic, but the opposite.
From your posts, I suspect you are going to get really pissed off when I tell you the answer. (I did when told) You may even say something like well that’s just stupid (I did) I’ve given you all the hints I can.
PS There is no one right answer. White came up with one which didn’t occur to me.
There were Buddhist monks sitting at the edge of a cave, looking down on a flagpole in a nearby village.
One monk was arguing that the flag was moving in the wind.
Another monk was arguing that the wind was moving the flag.
After a while of this back and forth argument, the third monk abruptly stated, it is not the flag or the wind, but your minds that are moving.
The first and second monks looked at the third in wonder, and quickly fell silent.
The goose symbolizes my consciousness*, the bottle symbolises my rational, analytical mind.
So even though I could come up with a hundred ways to cheat the system and get the Goose out of the bottle, it’s not about that, it’s a metaphor, I’m supposed to exist in a place of not knowing and just be?
*for lack of a better word.
Zen Koans are rarely what they seem. The puzzles generally relate to the mind. It reminds me of “What is the difference between a bird in a tree and one in a cage?”
In the bottle or out of the bottle? What difference would it make? The goose is already out of the bottle. It was raised in the bottle and the bottle is all it knows. It has never been "in a bottle," from it's own perspective. Leaving it alone allows it to be free, never knowing of an outside world, and does it no harm. Freeing the goose would bring it harm. It is only my perception that sees the goose in the bottle and only the Koan that asserts the goose must be freed by me. By working on the Koan, I become the goose stuck in the bottle. By not working on the Koan, I am free.