DAMN, that is brutal, I’m sorry you had to deal with that, it proves that life isn’t fair, never has been or ever will. When our dad died in 2001, he was cremated and we(I) dumped his ashes into a stream that ran into the Skagit river here in western Washington state, good riddance.
Our mom died in 2010, and she was buried in a local cemetery. Neither of my 3 sisters ever visited her grave after the funeral, but I still visit and maintain her marker a couple of times a year. I can understand their reasons, it’s painful for them, but I visit her just to bring back some of my memories of her.
Everyone grieves differently, and shouldn’t be criticized one way or the other.
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