I grew up (was not “raised”) in a house with two adults and three kids, including yours truly. Parenting was non-existent. i determined early on that I wasn’t going to have kids. And I never did.
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Lovin’ the third grade, I see.
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Oh I have grandkids, it’s the one thing my ex wife couldn’t take in the divorce. That’s the great thing about being grandpa, is that children respond to kindness and generosity, and have no notion how many grandparents is the norm.
I vividly remember my grandson enthusiastically telling me his friend in school only had one lot of grandparents, but he had three, as if he’d won the three legged race on sports day. 
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It is definitely a personal choice. I am happy I had a family but parenting is not for the weak and I have definitely given up a LOT to parent well. But I have 3 happy well adjusted kids so for me it is worth it. This isn’t the case for everyone. I know a couple of people who absolutely should NOT have children for various reasons. One is perfectly aware of this and content and considers our group of friends her family. I don’t know if my kids will ever have their own, I am perfectly okay with that. I don’t need grandchildren, I am looking forward to the empty nester independence.
As a woman I get tired of the constant pressure on us to reproduce and how many religious nuts view women as only a vessel for babies. It is perfectly okay for a woman to live a different life without kids and be just as fulfilled!
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The point those people are missing, is that this is a choice, so when one ties their morality, to that of bronze age patriarchal Bedouins, and tries to apply it to 21st century post industrial societies, inevitably it must go awry.
Sometimes I favor the Bronze Age folks to the modern lot.
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