Very different when I was a teen going to 60/40 dances.
I was simply astonished at the number of lesbians in my area. Well, it was obvious, why else would a girl refuse to dance with me?
I think I see the problem (belatedly) At 17-25, my dick was certainly in charge a lot of the time. But I had no schtick. Rarely got to take a girl home. Around 11, me and a mate would repair to the local greasy spoon for a steak sammie. No ill effects. If I eat that crap today I get murderous heart burn.