All the social media demonization aside…
If I know that particular words offend a person / people with whom I’m conversing or when in a public setting, I usually censor myself. It doesn’t cost me a dime.
Words can be used as weapons and can injure. Perhaps a review of the reason one is using a particular word is in order. If the purpose to cause pain, then have at it I guess. If not, then perhaps self-censorship is just using manors.