Question 2: Tolerance

Where does this scenario “fit” your definition (and the one I also provided)? The emotional component you’ve injected is pure projection on your part… HOWEVER

The implication is BOB does not want it painted “and verbalized it.
Jimmy does it anyway. BOB does not stop him…(the action of allowance).

Tolerance meaning is met as defined.

This Scenario B also is a “YES” answer to your question -