You win. Your marriage is officially worse than mine ever was.
I’d take the cat and the divorce. At least with that option you wouldn’t get religious harassment all of the time or have your wife trying to control what you do. The damage is bad. What more is a divorce going to do? Your kids already have this imaginary asshole version of you in their mind that isn’t true. You wouldn’t get treated like shit on a day to day basis after it’s over.
Edit: #savethecat