I think it’s better formulated as “differences attract”. For example, although me and my wife share some common interests and have overlapping world views, we also have individual interests and opinions that do not overlap, and we have quite different personalities. As for me, living with a clone of myself would not be optimal. I couldn’t do that. I learn stuff from my wife because of the differences, and vice versa. She has qualities that I don’t have, and the other way around. So I appreciate that she is quite different from me. It makes life more interesting.
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LOL ---- In general, couples with similar backgrounds tend to last longer. Similar education, wealth, backgrounds, etc… Perhaps that is why I am still single. Most people with my background are pumping gas at the ARCO station, hugging a bottle of Jack for a sleeping companion, and visiting various state-run facilities for annual vacations where they get three hots and a cot and nothing to worry about.
(I’ve got a father, brother and sister that prove my hypothesis.) Mom is the enabler of the bunch. Last time I spent time with mom, she was living with a guy from Mexico, 15 to 20 years her junior, who was strung out on something serious.
I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. I have tattoos to make me look tough. I was certainly a criminal prior to turning 18, and for a little into my 20s. But all that was given up for education. Somehow my brain just did a switch. I looked at my life and told myself, I was exactly like everyone around me, and I didn’t want to be that way. I changed. Well, not at first, but over the years. Unfortunately, my favorite flavor of women did not change.
I ended up married to a woman that was exactly like my mother. Then, six months later the marriage was annulled. Fuck! What a bitch. I caught her carrying cocaine across the Mexican border in her purse. Complete accident. We had just crossed the border and stopped at a MacDonald’s. I needed some coins to call work (No cell phones smaller than a car battery, and just as heavy, at the time.) I found the little paper of cocaine. I never noticed her problem in a year of dating. Once we moved in together, she was the biggest bitch (next to mom) I had ever met. Complaining from the time she woke in the morning until she went to bed at night.
I have always told myself that the best day in my life was the day I got married. The worst was 6 months later when all my myths of a happy married life came crashing down. Not only did I understand marriage at that point, but I got a good look at myself, the kinds of people I was attracted to, and the delusion I had about being able to blend in and get along with anyone. Some people were not worth getting along with. It was much better to just be yourself.
Do you know how hard it is to be an individual in this world of joiners? I have a hunch that many of you do.
Now for those of you who read this and are confused about my early Christian life and my criminal life, well, running from an arrest in California, and leaving your family to hide out for a year and a half in the Midwest can have a strange effect on a young man. (I promise my wild adventures are true.) Praise the Lord!
So, back to the topic: Opposites attract? I don’t really think so. I’m voting for “Birds of a feather.”
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Perhaps it’s because I’m tired, and perhaps it’s because I’ve had a few beers, but I first read that as “I don’t think”. It first almost made kind of sense, but it had me reading it again. 
Divorced or actually annulled? If actually annulled, how do one go about doing that?
Because it was such a short time, no assets were to be divided, we were allowed to annul the marriage. It was very inexpensive, about $300. And then she sued me for some camping gear we had purchased. Another $300. I would have to pull out the annulment papers to look at what the attorney wrote. I don’t recall. It was a very simple process. It took about 3 months if I recall correctly. We lived together for about 2 months, began having problems, and by 6 months were no longer married. I never went to court and I got one phone call from her attorney requesting the $300 settlement.
The attorney told me I was being sued, and I was waiting for some insane amount. When she told me the amount, I started laughing. I told her I would drive over and hand her the check the same day. She just requested I mail it in. Done and Done.
I have the papers in my desk at home. I’ll take a look if I can find them quickly.
No reason to do that. I’ve had enough of an explanation, so no reason to go into more details 
I was just being curious, because until now, I’ve only heard of annullments in cases of bigamy, and then only through news articles.