Part of my training was with a Group out of of “Contextual Therapists.” Everything the therapist did was about creating a “Therapeutic context” in the session. What the client actually did or how the client responded was all exactly what the client needed to do to get where he or she was going. Where the client was going was not up to the therapist but rather it was up to the client. In training, clients were encouraged not to discuss presenting problems, to lie, and to be evasive. They were to challenge the therapists on anything they could/
It’s not important that the therapist knows what is going on… over there… It is only important that you know what is going on … over there. And when you become aware… very interesting things can happen.
Any therapist worth his/her salt. knows this. The fact that you choose to change has very little to do with the person sitting in front of you. You walked into the room on your own two feet. It was your choice. You know the way out of the room as well. It is always your choice to stay, to lie, to play games, to do whatever. None of this can diminish the impact the situation can have on your life when the session is designed to have an impact on your life.
I am happy you found a way out.